Why my Wife is Happy I am a Physician Assistant and not an MD

| Friday, Dec 27, 2013
Physician Assistant Career Post image for Why my Wife is Happy I am a Physician Assistant and not an MDIn my life family will always be my greatest priority. I love my patients like I love life itself, but I love my family even more than life itself.Years ago I dreampt of being an MD. Since I was a small child in fact. To me this would be the pinnacle of life. Stethoscope around my neck, working in the trenches. Saving lives! This was my childhood dream, as well as my young adult dream, all the way through college. Not even Organic Chemistry could stop me. I just pushed through it, head to the grindstone, determined to reach my goal.Then one year away from finishing all my pre-med training something happened: I met a Physician Assistant! To me life has always been more than my job. The reason I created this my website, www.thepalife.com, is because I love art, photography and technology.I love kids, the outdoors and my family. I love to surf, to bike and to take my son and daughter for long walks. I love to make shapes out of the clouds, go on long weekend getaways, take my wife out dancing.

More than a PA; I love life!

If you don't know already being a doctor requires a TON of sacrifices. If you are considering becoming a physician and you are not prepared to give your life over to medicine, then I want you to take a long deep inward look at yourself and decide if what you want is really MD. Prior to many hours working in the University of Washington Medical Center I thought being a Dr. was fun, like Michael J. Fox in the movie "Doc Hollywood," or rugged like the doctors on Mash. I wanted to be like George Clooney in the TV show ER. This is an illusion. Being a Dr. means long hours, late nights on call, missed birthdays, missed anniversary's often second marriages. That last one is the part that is like the movies.

Want vs. Need

I realized that what I wanted most out of life was to help people be healthy. I love the human body, I love anatomy and I love science. I loved the thought of propping a young child up on the exam room table making a funny face and treating their ear infection. I loved the idea of sewing up a wound, setting a fracture, being there when another human being needed someone to hold onto. Helping someone come to terms with death while helping another come to terms with life. I didn't want MD, I wanted all of the above; to me there was no other way.

Balance

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I have met more doctors who want to be PA's than PA's who want to be doctors. Why? Because there is more to life than medicine. PA's have the unique opportunity to live this. It is not about being lazy, it is not about lack of dedication. PA's tend to be some of the most dedicated and hard working people I know.

PA is the sweet spot!

PA is where life and medicine meet in the middle. I truly believe you can be better at compassion when you are more grounded. Having a life outside of work justifies life; it makes for a happy person which translates to better patient care. I realized after quite a bit of soul searching that I never really needed to be a Doctor, but I wanted to feel like one. If you are on this journey to being a health care provider, just know that a life exists beyond MD. It is a wonderful life, it has fulfilled every single one of my dreams of being a wonderful health care provider. And every time I prop a small child up on the exam room table and write the script to make their ear feel better, I smile. Then I go home in the evening and give my kids, and my wife, a big hug and a kiss. In my life family will always be my greatest priority. I love my patients like I love life itself, but I love my family even more than life itself. Click to Tweet I don't think I could have found this balance as an MD and I thank my lucky stars that life, or God or whatever directed me to UMDNJ, to PA School, to the job of my dreams. Being a PA is truly where life and medicine have found the perfect balance. I hope you too will give the Physician Assistant profession consideration as you go about life and pursue a rewarding career in the field of medicine. This post ran originally on author Stephan Pasquini's www.thepalife.com blog. Stephan Pasquini is a rural family practice Physician Assistant since 2004 and creator of thepalife.com. A National Health Service Corps Scholar and graduate from The University of Medicine and Dentistry of NJ (Rutgers) PA program and the University of Washington in Seattle, WA. Stephen's goal is to provide one of a kind online resources for those interested in or practicing in the PA profession, to promote better access to healthcare for all and foster universal recognition/awareness of the PA profession